You are not special

You’re not special , you may think you are but you are not. You may have a fancy car, nice house and a trophy wife. You may even have two wonderful kids and a pedigree dog. A lofty job title and money in the bank. On the other hand you might have fuck all, not a thing in your life there maybe any absence of money , friends or dogs. But either way you are not special.

 

Either end of the spectrum you are not special. You are normal. Because you either want to obtain all them riches or keep hold of them of them if you have them. So if everyone is after that, it becomes normal and therefore being normal is not being special.

 

You have been told you are special , unique or one in a million. But millions of you are told that every day of your life. Why are you special? What have you done that is special that no one else has done? You might have been the first to eat 25 doughnuts in 10 seconds but does that make you special?

 

Do you feel special? Do you feel that ; you can do it, no matter what? Or do you feel it’s all mundane and no matter how many times this gets reinforced . You are still depressed? Why should you be depressed? You got it all. The wife, the kids, car, house. Are you happy? Or do you just own things? You have all this, you have been told you are special but in fact you are normal.

 

How do you feel being normal rather than special? It doesn’t make sense does it? There is nothing wrong with being normal. That’s how we base the world . Even the eccentrics out there are not special they are just after what makes you normal, but using another medium to find it. They want money, they want to be noticed. So we are all normal.

 

What if I told you, you could be special and it’s easy. Stop wanting to be normal. And instead of that, look for what would make you happy. Don’t use possessions to guide your emotions, but find how to be happy with n your mind. A simple shift.

 

Most people chase money thinking that will lead to happiness , the thing the don’t realise is that money and happiness are not on the same track.

What are you chasing ?

What are you chasing? The correct answer should be happiness and that happiness shouldn’t be measure of wealth. It should be a measure of well being.

Money wise I do ok, I skirt around being middle class I don’t earn huge amounts but then again if I want a take-away I order one up or a new pair of shoes I go to Clarks. I’ve never been money motivated and am still not. The more I earn the more I get depressed. It is not some kind of social injustice switch in me, far from it. I am not sure what it is :

“I’ve been happy poor and miserable rich”

Think about that above quote. For me it’s true , now I am earning it doesn’t seem too great this having money lark. At school it’s an onslaught off “you must do well” , “get a good job” , “It’s no good being poor” and why is it not? Look at celebrities all the money in the world and they go off the rails. Because deep down they enter a form of melancholy that their money can’t buy them out of.

We can chase the next pay increase and what do we want after that? Another 5k and what do you sell for that? Deep down you know , you are selling your time. That time with your wife or your kids. When you are on your death bed from chasing the dream of money you will wish you didn’t spend the long cold nights in the office because ; Dave from accounts wanted you to do over time. No you will think “fuck if only I could have ten more minutes with my wife”. And all because you wanted money and not real happiness

Once we chase the money , we have sold-out we stop becoming us. Even if you have the things in life that makes you happy how much time do you get to do it? You work 40 hours a week and spend two playing guitar or whatever makes you happy. Is that a fair trade off? Of course not but you do it.

Find yourself a job that gives you the time to be happy. Or you will end up spending great swathes of time being depressed. Work to live don’t live to work. Chase the thing that makes you happy otherwise you are running the wrong way all your life.

Rule number one of life , is you are going to die. Accept that and you will find what to chase. Bentleys, big houses, the latest iphone , handbags or must have lipstick. Wont make you happy because if it did why do you buy the next one when it comes out? Chasing money turns people in to nasty horrible zombies. And you don’t want “Horrible zombie” on you tombstone

What makes you wealthy is not how much money you earn or your posessions it’s how few people call you a cunt during your life. And how happy you are.

Love of money is not the root of evil, but it can be the root of misery.